To an 18 year old Sim…
Funny how sometimes I struggle to remember what I walk into a room looking for, yet I can still remember this day 10 years ago as if it happened yesterday.
At the time, if you had told me that 10 years on I would be married, with a beautiful daughter, living in Manchester again I would not have believed you.
Life really does throw some strange curve balls at you and I have certainly learnt a lot in that time…
Family… Mhm… the “honeymoon” period is fantastic, though fast forward 5 years and it’s all about filing away bills, earache and wondering in which decade your next night out will be! Parents, no matter how old you are they will still treat you like a twelve year old who cannot fend for yourself. They simply forget that you moved to London on your own at 18 and made a new life. Your sister will always be there for you and cooks a fantastic Sunday dinner!
Friends… friends will come and go but only the true friends will stick around. You know, the ones who you can say anything to and they will not judge, just be there to hold your hand and give you a hug when needed. The ones who you could trust with your life. They are the ones to cherish and look after in return. They also know who they are.
Regrets… life is simply too short to have any regrets. The only regret you should have is that you simply cannot fit enough into your day. Experience everything life throws at you with enthusiasm and don’t let people get you down, everyone is human at the end of the day. Just keep on smiling… it will make people wonder what you are thinking about!
Just go for what you want, you knew what you wanted 10 years ago and got it. A similar situation will occur 10 years down the line which will again prove your theory. Enjoy it when it does, you will always have those memories.
Life… don’t believe everything you hear. Sometimes people will tell you what they they want you to hear… news flash… you don’t want to hear it. Be strong, be kind but remember not everyone will be kind to you. It’s nothing you have done, it’s their insecurities so just keep on doing your thing. Some days will be better than others, there will be times when you cannot see beyond today, but tomorrow will come. Trust the advice ‘it’s all about who you know not what you know’ it works wonders. There will always be people to help you, all you need to do is ask. So stop being so stubborn and make sure you do ask!
Love… you will have your heart broken again. I cannot say when or by whom as nothing I say through hindsight will stop you going down that path as it was always set in stone. It will hurt immensely, it will be tough, you will scream, you will cry, you will be angry but you will get over it. The love you feel for your daughter will be instant and you will never know anything else like it and knowing that it is reciprocated makes you love even more.
The future… life changes as you know it when you have a family. There is a new priority in your life and you will want to give her everything you had and more. Just don’t forget about ‘you‘ – you have a life to lead and enjoy as well. You have plans for when school starts and I hope they do work out, just follow your heart and you will choose the right path. Don’t let anyone sway your decisions, you are a very stubborn and determined lady but your gut is pretty spot on 100% of the time so stick with your intuition it will take you far.
Songs that will influence you in the future:
* Beyonce – Halo
* Elbow – One Day Like This (simply beautiful)
* Otis Redding – Try a Little Tenderness
* Amy Winehouse – Love is a Losing Game
* Adele – Someone Like You
Remember memories with fondness and look at pictures and smile as they capture all the special moments in your life.
Enjoy tonight, maybe don’t forget the speakers this time and have one less drink, you definitely will not regret it!