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Why Are Young Teenagers So Intent On Trouble?

by S1m
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After hearing of a friend’s teenage son being the victim of an attempted mugging the week before, I didn’t bat an eyelid as I prepared to venture into our local town late on Saturday afternoon.
Why would I? I’m a 36 year old woman with a temperament that even The Hulk would be impressed by. Stupid teenage, scally gangs were certainly not going to stop me enjoying my time out.

However, there was absolutely nothing that could have prepared me for the carnage that I viewed with my own eyes that day. Young teenagers with an utter disregard for anyone but themselves… and in some cases themselves due to sheer stupidity. Young teenage gangs fighting with each other. Young teenage gaggles looking for nothing more than to intimidate anyone in their sights for nothing more than shits and giggles and their own self gratification.

Are you seeing a common denominator here?

Young teenagers. 13-14 year olds.

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When I was that age, I did venture out into my local town with friends of a weekend. Happily catching the bus with my Clippercard (remember when the bus used to be 30p a journey?) and basking in my freedom and young independence. Saturday afternoon’s were utter bliss, involving shopping around Our Price for the latest Blur single… on cassette. Ogling the good looking guys working in Inter Sport. Scoffing Pick n Mix sweets we had bought in Woolworths.

We were innocent, young teens, enjoying our time away from rules and simply enjoying life. I distinctly remember lots and lots of laughter. The young teens I observed on Saturday were not laughing, they were bitter, angry, rebellious, intent of mischief, miserable little arses!

What has happened to the world when children, because that is what they still are, even as teenagers, are fearful of simply stepping out to the local bowling alley with friends for an afternoon of fun? What has happened that even adults feel uncomfortable to be in such areas which the aforementioned gangs frequent? When did it become a consideration on whether to visit before taking your family out for a treat?

There have always been areas with such behaviour, even as I was growing up and I know my parents would have been disappointed if I had and something had happened. How do you stop your own area becoming one of ‘those’ areas though? Children are allowed their freedom so keeping them locked up until they are 21 is certainly not an option!

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As parents we can instil being vigilant, sticking to busier areas of the town, staying in the group of friends they are with and just generally keep their head’s down. It’s a sad state of affairs that we have to prepare our children that there ‘may-be’ trouble, life for young teenagers shouldn’t be like that. Adulthood is pants enough, they should just be enjoying their freedom and innocence!

Liv is 10 years old now and I realise that she will want to visit our local town with friends of a weekend and it is already giving me sleepless nights! Thinking back, there were immense benefits to the boxing classes we took and as a parent, it is reassuring that she knows how to defend herself. Picking boxing back up has certainly been a consideration this week, the fitness benefits were fantastic!

I am hoping things do improve, I am not holding my breath, but at least I still have time to fully prepare Liv for the teen years!

What are your thoughts? Have you experienced similar behaviour? Do you let your young teenager(s) out of a weekend?

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7 comments

Jenny @thebrickcastle February 6, 2019 - 2:42 pm

I think disenchantment and boredom is inherent in the system. There is little for young people without an income to do and youth clubs closed down or open once or twice a week. They need to loiter somewhere and the mere fact they are in groups makes them feel intimidating. There will then be the bored and angry few who will behave badly and if they’ve nowhere else to focus their aggression it causes a nightmare for the entire community. As Mike Skinner so poignantly said “geezers need excitement. If their lives don’t provide it they stay, incite violence. Common sense, it’s simple common sense”. You need to give them somewhere to go and something affordable to do.

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S1m February 6, 2019 - 4:08 pm

No, there is nothing for them to do, but even less when we were that age, but we still managed without getting into fights and intimidating our peers and adults. There is a distinct lack of respect these days and it is just going to get worse! :/

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Louisa February 8, 2019 - 2:12 pm

I let my teens out at the weekend, to town or to visit friends. On the whole our town is ok. However, there is 1 park they are banned from because the people there are usually up to no good. The people at this park are late teens/early 20s and I think with them it is a combination of poverty. boredom and lack of guidance at home. I don’t know what the solution is but I think the majority of teens are good kids who are not intent on causing trouble. It’s a shame that the bad element ruin it for the others #pocolo

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chickenruby February 9, 2019 - 2:39 am

It must be a cultural thing. for the past 8 years since living outside the UK we’ve only witnessed teenage behaviour like you describe when we’re back in the UK, we just don’t see kids hanging out in groups here in Dubai or in our previous home in South Africa, it was something we were really aware of especially as we had teens of our own at the time. #pocolo

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Sam February 9, 2019 - 3:31 pm

Oh gosh it is scary luckily my boys are young or though do enjoy testing the boundaries X #pocolo

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Morgan Prince February 19, 2019 - 11:17 am

To be honest I haven’t seen anything like this, but I am always a little weary of groups of teens together. I grew up in an area where I always had to be careful and it was a little disconcerting when a group of teen boys gathered around. My eldest is 14 and has just started to go out on his own (with friends) but we live in a fairly quiet area so I’m not particularly worried. He knows how to look after himself. LP is 10 too and is so eager to go out on his own – but he does karate so I think even when it’s his turn I’ll be a little more at ease. 🙂
Thanks for sharing with #pocolo

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S1m February 19, 2019 - 11:58 am

That was totally the case when we were younger, fortunately the gangs were few and far between in our local area then. The gangs have adapted over time and the girl gangs are somewhat worse and more obvious too. Sad times 🙁

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