Do you ever feel like you’re at the bottom of your own to-do list? Whether it’s managing work, family or friendships, it’s so easy to forget about your own needs.
But here’s the truth: you can put yourself first without feeling guilty and it’s absolutely essential for your well-being.
When I used to neglect myself, I felt drained, frustrated and overwhelmed. It wasn’t until I made small, intentional changes that everything started to shift. My energy improved, my mood lifted and I became a better parent and friend.
If you’re ready to make yourself a priority, here are nine guilt-free ways to put yourself first:
- Recognise the importance of self-care and self-prioritisation.
- Create time in your schedule just for you, even if it’s just 15 minutes a day.
- Learn how to set boundaries and say no without guilt.
- Practice mindfulness to stay present and manage stress.
- Surround yourself with positive influences who uplift you.
- Make time for your health – physically and mentally.
- Celebrate your wins, big or small and boost your self-esteem.
- Delegate tasks and ask for help when needed.
- Rediscover hobbies and passions that bring you joy.
Now let’s take a look at how you can implement these changes and start putting yourself first… without any guilt.

1. Recognise the Importance of Putting Yourself First
This was the hardest part for me – realising that prioritising myself didn’t mean neglecting others. It’s like the oxygen mask rule on a plane: you can’t help anyone else if you’re running on empty.
When I finally accepted this, it was a lightbulb moment. Read more about how to focus on yourself to prevent burnout here.
You deserve the same care and attention you give to everyone else. Start small if it feels overwhelming. A five-minute break to breathe deeply or enjoy a cup of tea uninterrupted can work wonders.

2. Create Time for Yourself
No matter how packed your schedule is, carving out time for yourself is non-negotiable. For me, it started with a 15-minute walk in the morning. It wasn’t much, but it was mine.
Set aside a specific time each day just for you. Maybe it’s reading a book before bed or a quick meditation session during your lunch break. Even tiny pockets of time can help recharge your batteries. Check out this guide for for more quick self-care habits for busy parents.

3. Set Healthy Boundaries Without Guilt
If you’re like me, saying no might feel impossible at first. I used to say yes to everything, from school events, extra work tasks to favours for friends – until I realised it was draining me.
Now, I practice setting boundaries with kindness. I say no when something doesn’t align with my priorities and I remind myself that every “no” is a “yes” to something I truly value.

4. Practice Mindfulness to Manage Stress
I used to brush off mindfulness as something I didn’t have time for. But once I gave it a chance, I realised how grounding it could be. Now, I try to sneak in moments of mindfulness wherever I can, whether it’s a few deep breaths while the kettle boils or taking a mindful moment with my crochet.
Mindfulness helps you stay present and manage stress. Explore more on the benefits of staying in the moment and cultivating mindfulness in this post.
Whether it’s through breathing exercises, journaling or simply sitting quietly with a cup of tea, these small moments can have a big impact on your day.

5. Celebrate Small Wins to Boost Your Confidence
I’m the queen of downplaying my accomplishments. But recently, I started keeping a small notebook where I jot down one thing I’m proud of each day. It’s amazing how much it’s boosted my confidence.
Whether it’s completing a project at work or sticking to a new habit, take a moment to celebrate. Treat yourself to something small like a coffee, a bath or even just a pat on the back. You’ve earned it.
Recognising your progress, no matter how small, is a powerful motivator. Here’s how celebrating small wins can boost your confidence.

6. Delegate and Ask for Help
For years, I tried to do it all – until I realised I didn’t have to. Asking for help with household chores or work projects felt uncomfortable at first, but it made such a difference.
Now, I delegate tasks whenever I can, knowing it’s not a sign of weakness but a smart way to lighten the load. If you’re unsure where to start, this guide on how to delegate more effectively in your personal life offers practical tips to make it easier.

7. Make Your Health a Priority
Confession: I used to ignore little aches or stress signs, brushing them off as “I’m getting older.” But I’ve learned that prioritising your health, both physical and mental, makes a world of difference.
It doesn’t have to mean drastic changes. For me, it started with drinking more water, getting outside for a quick walk and setting reminders to stretch during the day. Learn more about the benefits of physical activity for mental and physical health.
When you feel your best, you can give your best to everything else in life. So I took a leap and joined a local Clubbercise class with friends. It’s been such a fun way to stay active and lift my mood. Who doesn’t love dancing to great music?
Whether it’s cooking a nutritious meal, treating yourself to a well-deserved rest day, or trying something new like Clubbercise, prioritising your health is one of the greatest ways to put yourself first.

8. Rediscover Hobbies That Make You Happy
When was the last time you did something purely for joy? For me, it was curling up with a good book and getting lost in a story or picking up my crochet hook to start another snuggly blanket.
There’s something so soothing about the rhythm of stitching and the satisfaction of seeing something handmade come to life.
Think about the hobbies or passions that light you up. Looking for inspiration? Here are creative ways to explore hobbies you’ll love.
Whether it’s reading, crafting, baking or simply listening to your favourite music, carve out time for the things that make you happy.

9. Surround Yourself with Positive People
I’ve learned the hard way that the company you keep matters. Spending time with supportive, uplifting people makes such a big difference in your mindset.
If someone in your life consistently drains your energy, it’s okay to create some distance. Focus on nurturing relationships with people who inspire and encourage you.
If you’re looking for advice, these tips for building and maintaining healthy relationships can help you create a supportive social circle.
Surrounding yourself with positivity doesn’t just boost your mood, it reminds you of your worth and helps you build a stronger, more confident version of yourself.
Wrapping up Simple Ways to Put Yourself First Without Feeling Guilty
Putting yourself first doesn’t mean you’re neglecting others, it means you’re showing up for them as your best self. By making these small changes, I’ve found more balance, happiness and energy in my life.
What about you? Which step are you most excited to try? Share your thoughts in the comments below, and don’t forget to share this post with someone who might need a reminder to put themselves first.